I turned 30 in the spring of 2020 when the world was on fire. I didn’t really pay close attention to the milestone that year because of the crazy circumstances in life- teaching middle schoolers from my living room- daycare closed and tiny kids running around, as well as fears and uncertainties. But as time passed, I started to really think about life and how entering my 30s was a time for change and a time for me to let go of some of the anxieties I’d let consume me for so long. I needed to embrace the new things that turning 30 brings the good, the bad, the funny, and the chaotic.
I will be letting go of the perception that my home has to be perfect or resemble Instagram pictures.
This one is hard for me! I grew up in a home that was “perfect” my mom kept it incredibly clean and it was always decorated and tidy. My perception of an adult home growing up was that when I “grew up” my house should look put together all the time- that’s how I’d know I had made it. Social media has not helped when all that is presented is the snapshot of the perfect home. Now that I feel I am officially in my adult years I am going to let go of that mindset and allow my house to just be and feel normal. To not put that pressure on myself to always have everything put away all the time or to run around like I’m on fire trying to get everything clean while also tending to my three little kids. Realizing that literally, nobody cares if there are dishes in the sink or shoes on the floor when they come over.
I will embrace support and surround myself with people that fill my cup and are there to support me.
This is something that I have embraced fully since coming into my 30s. I can’t say that in my 20s I had spent the time needed to truly cultivate friendships with others and create that circle of friends. Having a group of friends to confide in, to help you fill the time, to love your kids, and to simply grab some coffee when you desperately need a break is something that I will continue to put my effort into.
I will work harder to create a healthy lifestyle because I’m not in my 20s anymore and everything hurts.
Being in my 30s has brought on so much more pain than I realized. I have gotten to the point where I need to travel with MY pillow or I will be waking up on a trip with neck pain. I always made fun of my parents for the number of sleep necessities they brought when they left their house- now I get it. Exercise and eating better are taking a forefront in my life. Now I realize I can no longer eat Spagettio’s or cookie dough rolls if I plan on getting through the day without heartburn. I have changed my mindset about working out from exercising to look amazing to exercising so I don’t develop osteoporosis and run out of breath climbing the stairs. Don’t get me wrong I still would like to look amazing, however, general health seems to be more important now, and I will make it a priority to move my body.
I will make sure we take the adventure and experience things with our kids.
My husband and I struggle with this because we are both very type A and have no go-with-the-flow. We have three kids who are 7,4,1 and we feel like we have been living in toddler land for 7 years. Because they are all three years apart, when we felt that our child had gotten old enough to travel or go on some type of excursion, we would have another baby and feel like we were starting over with the waiting game. Now that our oldest is 7 we realize that we need to get over ourselves and take the trips, go on the adventures, and let the schedule go out the window. We see how much fun everyone has even if there are meltdowns along the way. Creating those memories with the kids is important; we will be glad we did it.
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